Yes, I am in love with NARCISSIST person, or you can say a self obsessed person but but but.. he is not a selfish person. So, as I am a philosopher it is my great interest to understand and explore people. You will not believe that how is possible that a 24 years old girl has got this old age people's interest of understand people, yes understanding people is something makes me feel so amazing about them and myself too. By the way, understanding people is an amazing experimental art.
Well, let me share something about 'NARCISSIST people, actually who are they? Let's see what wikipedia says :
Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water.
Narcissism is a concept in psychoanalytic theory, which was popularly introduced in Sigmund Freud's essay On Narcissism (1914). TheAmerican Psychiatric Association has had the classification narcissistic personality disorder in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) since 1968, drawing on the historical concept of megalomania.
Narcissism is also considered a social or cultural problem. It is a factor in trait theory used in various self-report inventories of personality[1]such as the Millon Clinical Multiaxial Inventory. It is one of the three dark triadic personality traits (the others being psychopathy andMachiavellianism).
Except in the sense of primary narcissism or healthy self-love, narcissism is usually considered a problem in a person's or group's relationships with self and others. Narcissism is not the same as egocentrism.
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Okay, so 'badha panga hai' with these kind of people, but nothing is impossible, I am sure you agree!
Today, my guy is really complicated, he even doesn't love to me but winning over life is more important to me. He is narcissist person, but he is a person, so the world ends there. If you expect love from such a person in return, then it will hurt you a lot. No, please love a narcissist person with no expectations in returns. It's actually a risk but risk taking for such people are worth in love, if you truly know the meaning of love.
- Sense of entitlement or superiority
- Lack of empathy
- Manipulative or controlling behavior
- Strong need for admiration
- Focus on getting one’s own needs met, often ignoring the needs of others
- Higher levels of aggression
- Difficulty taking feedback about their behavior
Let's dig their behavior even deeper:
1. Conversation Hoarder : The narcissist loves to talk about him or herself, and doesn’t give you a chance to take part in a two-way conversation. You struggle to have your views and feelings heard. When you do get a word in, if it’s not in agreement with the narcissist, your comments are likely to be corrected, dismissed, or ignored. But that's fine! You should be happy that your guy or girl is expressive. And you just need to understand and listen them. When you listen to someone, especially to the person you love the most, you actually make them feel special that some one like you are there to listen them and understand.
2. Conversation Interrupter : While many people have the poor communication habit of interrupting others, the narcissist interrupts and quickly switches the focus back to herself. He shows little genuine interest in you and considers you at easy, but again here you don't need to misjudge that he is taking you granted, you have to understand him and his needs from you and be person whom you can interrupt and be at easy. It's nothing that they don't care, its just they really don't have any idea that what they need to do and how they need to understand others. So, just be calm if they interrupt, ultimate love is to keep your partner happy and at comfort zone.
3. Rule Breaker: They easily changes and manipulates rules, ethics and situations forming a new story and depicts a smart image about themselves, but but but if you love them you just need to focus on understanding them without judging them in negation and accept them the way they are, as it should be the way when you are in love with any narcissist person.
4. Charmer: Narcissists can be very charismatic and persuasive. When they’re interested in you (for their own gratification), they make you feel very special and wanted. However, once they lose interest in you (most likely after they’ve gotten what they want, or became bored), they may drop you without a second thought. A narcissist can be very engaging and sociable, as long as you’re fulfilling what she desires, and giving her all of your attention. But if you are partner is charmer, you don't need to worry much and just put your true efforts. Show them how much love and special they are for you. It really works, though someone never expresses, but woooowwing someone always make that someone feel very happening and special.
In short, it is easy, just be yourself and original to NARCISSIST people, there will be 2 possibilities either they will discard you or make distance from you; will understand and fall in for you or be your friends forever without caring your love for them but definitely needing your love for them to feel super pampered.
I am putting my all efforts to make my guy feel the most special person on the globe for me with right and positive deeds and expecting nothing in return. And I trust, that there will be day he will feel my value because we are humans and we have heart which is filled with emotions and feelings; its just we don't unleash our emotional powers in correct way.
3:22 AM, I got to sleep!
Signing OFF! Good Bye, see you soon with again something new. TC.
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